Working with infants for the past 20 years, I have learned one thing, every baby is so different! They have different levels of need and unique preferences as their individual personality is developing.

When a baby cries, they are in need of something. A diaper change, a warm snuggle from a trusted caregiver, a nap, a meal, or simply someone to help them calm and regulate their body.

As a caregiver, it can be tricky to figure out what your baby needs in the moment and often, it can be hard to sooth them for a variety of reasons - here are some starting places and several things to try.

Keep them fed. Watch for baby’s cues and try to offer a feeding before they get upset. By following the baby’s cues, you will build a trusting and mutual relationship that will last a lifetime. Some common cues are rooting (turning head as if looking for the breast or bottle) sucking on hands or fingers or getting squirmy, crying is a late hunger cue.

Keep them comfortable. Skin to skin contact helps baby’s heartbeats regulate, offers warmth to help regulate body temperature, and a familiar soothing scent if baby is overstimulated or difficult to soothe. Wearing your baby in a baby wrap offers the same comfort. Offering a pacifier, swaying or slowly dancing with them while snuggled in your arms, taking a break outside, singing, sushing or humming sound.

Often, you will have to try a few things to help your baby soothe and you will learn from your baby as your relationship develops and as you respond to cues.

A huge thank you to Jessie Salvin for her gift of advice!